Like many successful business women you are very responsible. This is one of the reasons for your success. You are responsible for many things at work, at home and in your community.

You have been responsible for so much for so long that you think you can and SHOULD do everything.

Let’s make a deal. For the rest of this article we’ll both take off our capes. Okay ?

Why? Because responsibility, if not reflected upon, can have a dark side that is consuming. This much pressure on one’s character can lead to a false identity that is rooted in perfectionism, busyness and pride. It happens slowly over time. You start to think of yourself as too critical and too important. You let all of the positive feedback go to your head and think: “They really CAN’T live without me…can they?”

In the process of discovering and claiming your dreams you must face this false self and the baggage it has created. Going through my own transformation, I took off the cape, turned on the light and looked in the mirror. It was only once I could see these dark truths that I could begin to walk towards my true identity.

  • Busyness Addiction: You volunteer to be responsible for whatever no one else will do until you have filled every free sec/min/hour you have. You are constantly on the go and you have forgotten how to relax. Click here to get your life back.
  • Pride: You are not God. You can’t change people. You can educate, you can influence but at the end of the day their life is up to them not you. And honestly once you really believe that you are responsible TO people and not FOR them  – there is great freedom. Click here to learn how to let go.
  • Perfectionism: You work tirelessly to do what you say you’ll do so you don’t have to face the consequences of saying you’re sorry, having failed, disappointed people etc. In your quest for perfection and achievement people stop being people along the way. You begin to care more about the task at hand then your relationships. Click here to learn how perfectionism lies to you.

Where is your life has the dark side of responsibility shown up? What will you do the next time it comes?  Join the conversation by leaving a comment below.

Copyright 2015, Mary R. Miller